In yet other instances of betraying the TP, some alienating parents order the child to
spy on or clandestinely obtain information from or about the other parent (Baker, 2021;
Harman et al., 2018). In addition, Harman et al. (2018) found that the employment of
this strategy happens when the AP probes the children with the purpose of extracting
information from them after going to see the TP. Thus, the children become recruited as
well as manipulated in the crusade against the TP. In some instances, the AP will
require the child to spy on the TP, for example asking the child to search and actually
invade a TP’s computer, peruse TP’s files, desk for crucial or private information such
as bank account matters, legal documents, medical reports (Harman & Biringen, 2018;
Verrocchio et al., 2017). The demand that the child spy on the TP may leave the child
with the impression that TP has some crucial information he or she is hiding from the
AP. The child may thus look at his or her behaviour of spying on the parent as a
betrayal of the other parent which is likely to leave the child struggling with guilt
feelings and feeling uncomfortable in the presence of the TP. This further alienates the
child from the TP. The guilt feelings may also leave the child angry with the AP for
forcing them to betray the other parent leaving them devoid of emotional support from
both parents which is detrimental to their global wellbeing.