Bad mouthing or the spread of poisonous messages or bad mouthing the other parent
has been established as a parental alienation tactic (Aloia & Strutzenberg, 2019; Brian
,2020; Warshak,2020). In addition, Warshak (2020) and Silva (2022) found that this
disparaging and bad mouthing of the TP is done in the full presence of the children and
is more common among mild alienators. According to Warshak (2020) mild alienating
behaviors usually denote those behaviors that occur irregularly, such as incidental bad-
mouthing and disapproval or disparagement of the other parent. In this form of
alienation there is no constant attempt to weaken the child’s global positive association
with the TP who is the object of disparagement (Harman et al., 2019; Warshak, 2020).
Warshak (2020) also posits that the AP uses both spoken as well as nonverbal
communications which makes the child perceive the TP as unloving, dangerous, and
largely inaccessible to the child (Silva,2022). This would seem like a deliberate attempt
to create fear of the TP in the children making it only natural for them to distance
themselves from the TP for their own security.
In order to elaborate on the badmouthing of the targeted parent, Warshak (2020) reports
that it is common for the AP to take the prevailing flaws of the TP which are in turn are
amplified while the non-existent weaknesses are fabricated. In some instances, as
Verrocchio et al., (2017) report, the children are fed with lies that the TP is treacherous,
has no genuine love for them, does not need them and that the TP is worthless as parent
(Harman et el.,2018). This author reports that this is intended to make the child feel hurt
or harbor anger towards the TP. Additionally, Harman and Biringen, (2016) found that
some of the AP’s used children to testify against the TP in law courts, to mental health
specialists and teachers about fabricated events, for instance abuse as well as perceived
or unconfirmed fears. The end result of these behaviours is the creation of perceptions
of danger in the offspring, which prompts needless third-party intermediation. In the
use of badmouthing, the TP is also depicted as uncaring and unloving. In order to
divulge more information on this study findings, Harman and Biringen (2016) report
that some AP creates conflict amongst the child and the TP by telling them untrue,
incomplete, or deceptive and misleading information concerning the TP. Indeed,
Harman and Biringen (2016) found that in some instances the AP could tell the child
that the TP was supposed to be picking them up at a definite time (when no such
program was arranged) aimed at to making the child believe the TP discarded them. In
such incidents the AP would tell the children that their mum or dad forgot to pick them
up or visit them which left the TP depicted as both careless and unloving
Additionally, Harman et al. (2018) perceives bad mouthing of the TP as a form of
terrorism against children. Moreover, Harman et al. (2018) postulate that the behavior
of terrorizing children emanates from the AP’s behavior of derogating the TP as well as
creating fear in the children that the TP might be dangerous or too unstable to be
around. To further entrench this fear for the TP the AP manufactures or fabricates
stories on ways in which the TP has attempted to injure the child, about which the child
has no recollections but will believe to be true nonetheless, especially if the story is
recounted recurrently (Harman et al ,2018).