According to Harman et al. (2018) is common for alienating parent to attempt to erase
the memories of the TP from the children’s mind through the employment of gas
lighting tactics. Additionally, Harman et al. (2018) maintain that gas lighting denotes
the production of false information to the victim (children) which is ultimately meant to
make them doubt their own recollections with the TP. Further, Harman et al. (2018)
found that gas lighting involves revisiting the past history by the AP or making use of
events that a child remembers and then falsifies them or fill in with information that
never occurred. Furthermore, Silva (2022) found that the AP makes allegations and also
fabricate stories to the effect that the TP had sexually and physically abused the child
during their interactions before divorce occurred or during the visitation after divorce.
It would seem that this gesture is an attempt to distract the recollections of the child
about the TP and their relationship with him or her which is achieved through
brainwashing (Harman & Birigen, 2016). To this end, deceptive, confusing and
inadequate information is given to the children with the aim of creating conflicts
between them and the TP.
On the other hand, Harman and Birigen (2018) report that in some examples of gas
lighting involves the hiding of key information by the AP from the other parent. As an
illustration of this falsehood Harman and Birigen (2018) explain that the AP may give
the school going children the wrong picking hour so that when the TP fails to pick them
during the expected hour, the children are left feeling the other parent forgot them, has
no love for them, is inaccessible, does not care about them or has indeed rejected them.
Therefore, gas lighting tactic is aimed at turning the child against the TP, a construct
measured in Baker Strategy Questionnaire (BSQ). In other occurrences of gas lighting
the APs tell their offspring to keep secrets from the TP where those who comply are
rewarded (Verrocchio et al, 2017). Harman et al. (2018) informs that although many
alienating parents are reported as expansively employing this form of aggression
(telling children to keep secrets from TP), identification of this tactic is complicated
because one cannot directly observe it since it typically happens in privacy.